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  1. Stockings for toddlers ideas

    Christmas is coming and this means one thing, more toys to litter my home!

    My little boy doesn’t have massive amounts of toys but still, my house is being invaded by the large ride on toys, diggers, cars, Duplo and various tools (can you guess I have a boy?! My attempts to infiltrate gender-neutral toys has not worked!). My little boy would love more toys and far be it for me to deprive him of these but I do find myself shuddering as my dream of an ‘all wooden, picture-perfect, grand designs living room’ fades off into the distant abyss, as more and more VTech trash enters my world. (Like  the dream living room could have been a reality anyway!)

    So whilst I cant control what he receives, I may be able to influence Father Christmas and reduce the number of ‘treadable- swearables’ that will litter the floor of my house and eventually end up in the bin!

    So here are some ideas for your little lodger‘s stocking this Christmas.

    Stockings for me are one of the things that truly sums up Christmas for me. As a child, I  have vivid memories of waking up in the morning with pure excitement to a bursting stocking, sometimes because my mother had decided to give us a box of tissues that year and it was literally bursting out! All of the gifts inside were cleverly chosen to capture our attention, stop is in our tracks and ensure we didn’t leave our beds for at least another hour, so Father and MotherChristmass could get an extra minute in bed!

    So my little boy has recently turned two years old, so alongside some dramatic tantrums, and the rather annoying repetitive phase of” I do it”  that haunts my getting out of the house in the morning, I also have a little monkey who likes to wake up early, 5:30am in fact! So my thinking this year is to get him to sit in bed for just one minute longer and let me and his dad have an extra minute in bed and this is my attempt to take on the role of Mumma Christmas and begin the tradition again.

    A recipe for a toddler stocking:

    1# The token tangerine. Those aware of traditional Victorian traditions will know that an orange was a treasured thing and even nowadays a stashed tangerine in the change bag can be a godsend! So that goes in first.

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    2# Chocolate coins. Now, these are optional, I know the that Christmas is full of chocolate for kids so feel free to change these for other things, even raisins or apricots. I, however, am a gluten for punishment and will include these. Who wants to negotiate with a sugar-induced toddler having a tantrum? I do!

    Stockist: Fairtrade Chocolate Coins (These are fancy pants ones but cheaper ones can be found in the supermarkets and pound shops, as I’m sure you know already!)

    3# Socks. Now these may sound boring, and they are, but my boy always needs socks! Wrap them up several times will keep them occupied for at least a few minutes.

    Stockist: ZARA

    4# Buttons. My little man loves treasures so I shall be including a selection jar of buttons, found treasures and a few stones (of course) which I will wrap up and he can enjoy pouring them out, never to be found again, probably in his bed, or better yet our bed.

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    Stockist: SewMuchtoDo

    5# Toothbrush. [See 2#] This might be obvious considering the treats on offer over Christmas but my mother started us kids every year with a new toothbrush, and I’m continuing the tradition.

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    Stockist: Boots

    6# Paintfree Colouring Book or Magazine. These are not only good for Christmas but for car journeys and cafes!

    Stockist: John Lewis

    7# Little music box. Optional, could drive you mad but it was so pretty!

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    Stockist: Tindalls

    8# New shirt for Christmas day. We always had a new smart outfit for Christmas Day and this is something for them to open too.

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    Stockist: NEXT

    9# Pretty wooden toys

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    Stockist: Unknown

    10# Chocolate soldier. Now please don’t think I’m one for popping along to the V&A for all my Christmas gifts, I wish! But this was really nice and I loved how traditional is was!

    Stockings for toddlers ideas

    Read more from Emily at:

    www.instagram.com/mummasandmore

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    Hello, I'm Maya, a first time mum to a beautiful baby girl who is now 4 months old. I hadn't expected to become a mummy so soon but I have fallen in love with motherhood and my baby girl takes my breath away every time I look at her- I feel so lucky. I am now sharing my experiences and stories with you, so if you would like to read more feel free to check out my blog over at allthingspinkuk.com
     
     
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    For some reason being a young mum seems to give everyone the right to 
    pass judgment on you. Announcing a pregnancy often does cause a big 
    reaction and you would hope for it to be a positive one, but for most young 
    mums this is not the case. I guess I can't speak for everyone, but it seems as 
    though 9 times out of 10 a young female is faced with a mixed reception 
    when she shares her news. The negative comments received often take over 
    the initial excitement of it all, and to me it just doesn't seem fair. I mean, 
    would you turn round to an older woman who just announced she was 
    expecting and respond with, 'was it planned?'. Or 'are you going to keep it?' 
    Having a baby is a blessing and whether it's a surprise or if you've been 
    trying for months, what has that got to do with anyone else. 
    In my case those were the most common questions that were thrown at me, 
    but I also had the pleasure of receiving sly digs from those who felt I'd like 
    to hear their opinion, (I didn't!). They would say things like, 'it's a shame 
    you won’t get to do the things you'd hope to', and 'don't you wish you had 
    experienced life a little?'. Well first of all, for that individual to insinuate 
    that I won't be getting the opportunity to do everything I wished is 
    completely wrong. I am just as motivated, if not more, and in as good a 
    position as any to still go out their and achieve every single dream I have on 
    my bucket list. This idea people seem to have stewed in their minds about 
    younger mums being restricted to living a life of changing nappies, and 
    wiping noses are completely ludicrous. My daughter is the driving force 
    behind everything I do now, and she will always come first but she hasn't 
    taken over my individual identity. As much as I am a mother, I am also a 
    writer, a friend, a girlfriend, an actress, a business woman and all the other 
    things I choose to be. 
     
    So I would love to know where these ideas stem from; and why people 
    think that at a younger age you are less adequate to raise a child. Being a 
    new mother already puts you under the spotlight as it is. All the health 
    checks and midwife appointments after baby is born aren't set up as tests, 
    but I can't help but feel nervous, as they sit there watching me handle my 
    new born. Before they pull out their scales, weighing her to make sure she's 
    put on enough weight, and checking her body for any marks. I wait with 
    anticipation, almost to get the all clear that I'm doing things right. Then of 
    course there are the visitors that come round after the birth to see you, and 
    silently judge whether or not they think you're a good mum. It soundspretty cynical of me I know, but I don't think it's a conscious decision to 
    witness a situation, and not create an opinion in your own head. I have 
    huge amounts of admiration for younger mothers, because they have to 
    deal with all of that, as well as the judgments people pass on their age. It's a 
    lot. One of the inspirations I had for writing this post came from a 
    collection of comments my health visitor made during our 3 week check up. 
    After seeing my daughter was a healthy weight, that I was managing to 
    breastfeed, and that everything else was okay, she light-heartedly said, 'I 
    have to say I'm impressed with how well you're doing'. Before adding, 'you 
    would put some of the older mums to shame'. I know she intended for these 
    comments to be complimentary, but it came across in a condescending 
    way. Her words subtly communicated her opinion that she was surprised 
    by the positive example I had made of a new mother; having expected me 
    to be struggling a lot more in comparison to those who are older. Well I'm 
    glad I was able to "impress"! but you shouldn't have had such little faith in 
    me in the first place. 
    So in conclusion here's what kind of "young mum" I am... I'm kind, 
    thoughtful and loving. I'm a little bit silly and have a playful nature. I get 
    worried about little things, so am constantly checking in with Google. I'm 
    completely besotted with my baby, my boyfriend and our little family. I'm 
    excitable, and get giddy about the future, and watching my baby grow. I'm 
    imperfect, but I learn from my mistakes. I'm super organised, and obsessed 
    with items having their own place. I love the company of friends, but also 
    the company of social media! I'm squeamish but have a high tolerance for 
    pain. I love putting together outfits for my daughter every morning. I still 
    hold my breath when I change her pooey nappies. I try and take her out 
    every day, mostly to keep my own sanity. I am learning on the job, but I'm 
    motherhood's most keen student. 
    ...Is that so different to every other mum? Do those qualities show that I am 
    young in age? And if they do are they bad qualities to have in Mum? 
      
    Maya x 
     
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